exorbitant when you have so much to do and so much going on in the world around
you. It doesn't all pertain to me but it affects me just the same. People are
doing bad. Some have admitted it. Others are just realizing it. Many still have
yet to grasp it, but these strange times are taxing.
With relationships on all sides of me crumbling like asbestos, I can't help but
hold a deep breath and feel guilty for what I'm involved in. I say guilty
because it's hard to counsel someone who married the wrong person out of
convenience or opportunity if you yourself married based on understanding and
comraderie. Even harder to try the same approach with several couples on the
same page. So I don't. I stopped trying. A defeatist oblivious to their own
devices is painful when in soliloquy. They're minds are set like concrete though
other people have clearly scratched their names into their surface, while the
core of their problems remains unscathed. They talk to be heard, not to be
analyzed or critiqued. Oddly, they expect you to believe this ISN'T how they
were in the dissolved relationship. Multiply that by 2 and get a good look at
why so many relationships are simply unstable.
It isn't just men. It isn't just women. People are selfish. We live in a society
that has taught us that greed is good. "There's always something or someone
better than what you have now, so get it or them. Take it or them from whoever
currently possesses it or them." " Be loyal only to your ambitions." "Sacrifice
should be viewed as a role other people assume in your life." Oh yeah," get
money." These mantras are easier to subscribe to than Know Thyself because they
ask so little of the subscriber on the introspective level. When a follower of
those particular disciplines considers their wants and begins to rationalize
obtaining them, without considering all of the ramifications, they believe they
are conferring within. They are actually tracing the names written in the
sidewalks of their thoughts. Braille if you will. Most of what they want was
projected into their minds by other people. All of what they need is accessible
through the soul which is a reflection of the All.
So some pound the pavement while others study in the basement. The Scholar of
Society will move as that society moves. If that is out of order, against nature
and contradictory to it's own welfare than so are they. The Scholar of Self will
move as the universe moves. Breathing the same breaths. If that is orderly,
harmonic and complimentary to it's growth than so are they.
Society runs and ruins most of these relationships. The universe just
accommodates them. The infidelity, financial stress, insecurity/self-esteem
issues, domestic violence, psychological domination, etc are all representatives
of this society metastasized through the relationship. These social cancers are
the result of the individual's inability to separate who and what they are from
this extension of society they have been taught to be. They can not diagnose and
operate on themselves because they can not perceive a problem. Normalcy is
measured by a given society. In this society, divorce is normal. A happy
marriage is rare. Under this example, the binding principles of the Universe are
overlooked in favor of the social construct of Separate but Egoed. Yes. It takes
an ego to barrel through life believing that all that has hindered you were the
flaws of others. We all contribute to our conditions. Even in decision or
indecision, we inspire specific experiences to be written on our pages.
It is of the utmost importance to not forgo your obligation to those notes that
amount to your life. They are your truth to be denied or embraced with
corresponding effect. Every relationship you enter and/or exit will be subject
to what you have or have not studied about yourself. Do not train your mind to
support the belief that using wisdom to manipulate others makes you immune to
manipulation. On the contrary, what you don't know about you, you will
continuously find yourself subject to. It is the archetype of the broken
relationship you will continue to build with other people until you stabilize
yourself with reality of your own understanding of you. Believe it or not.
Donald Wooten II is a professional Graphic Designer/illustrator, owner of Hollagraphics Design Services, co-founder of Stolen Outfitters, administrator of TrueIndeed.me, a loving Husband and a Father. He is also @ahbseenkwestion and the Custodian of the #Skyline. His interests are in Self-Mastery, Self-government, Self-Sufficiency and all they entail.
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